We will all, at some point, be touched by the death of someone close to us. Many of us don’t know how to respond when someone is grieving so we avoid the topic for fear of making things worse – but that in itself makes the person who is left behind feel more isolated and alone. In this episode we talk about the stages of grief and what to expect when someone has lost someone close to them, and how you can support a friend or loved one through their grief.
If you are grieving you may also find the following episodes helpful:
Using Your Senses to Deal with your Emotions
Is your relationship strained? Not as good, or as fun as you would like it to be? Do you feel like you are nagging your partner all of the time?
If you would like to improve the relationships you have with the people around you then this short episode is for you. Our mental health is so linked to the connections we have with other people that if these are strained then this can cause us much distress.
This episode will not tell you to shut up and put up though – it gives clear guidance and questions to help you decide what to do next.
Episode length is less than six minutes and is based on William Glasser’s Choice Theory.
Does your stomach flip at the thought of using a phone? Do your legs turn to jelly when you have to stand up and talk in front of an audience? Does your heart beat too fast when you walk into a crowded room? In this episode we talk about how your stress response system (sympathetic nervous system) can be activated by things that shouldn’t actually frighten you, and what you can try to help turn off that warning system. If anxiety is overtaking your life, this episode is for you.
Episode length 9 minutes.
Do you feel bad about the way that you look? Do you negatively compare yourself to other people? Do you wish you looked like an Instagram model and pick fault with yourself because you don’t?
In this episode Aylssa talks through the components of body image, and what you can do to improve yours, no matter your shape or size.
If you feel like you need extra help or support around body image issues or eating disorders the organisations below may be able to help:
In this episode Aylssa helps you to relax by talking you through the progressive muscle relaxation exercise she was taught when she was 15 years old, and has used to get to sleep ever since (though she just uses the final section now!). So grab yourself a comfortable chair or a nice spot to lie down and we’ll begin.
In this episode Aylssa talks about the 10 different ‘Thinking Traps’ sometimes called ‘Cognitive Distortions’ that we can get ourselves into that fuel poor mental health including Anxiety and Depression. As our thinking fuels our emotions (and vice versa), paying attention to what our brain is telling us can help us challenge what is untrue or unhelpful and help us feel better. Thoughts, like feelings, are not facts.
This approach is the basis of Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT) which is an evidence based strategy for Anxiety and Depression.
The basis for the episode came from the book “The Borderline Personality Disorder Toolbox” by Jeff Riggenback, PHD, LPC.
Episode length 10 minutes.
If you could purposely do 2 things each day that would change your life – would you try?
In this episode Aylssa argues you can positively impact your mental health by choosing to do these 2 things each day. Give it a try for a week and see if you feel any differently!
This is the DBT Skill of Cultivating Positive Experiences initially devised by Marsha M. Lineham.
In this episode Aylssa explains why stopping using these 3 words could benefit your relationships and your mental health.
Bonus! Another word you could consider changing.
See if changing some words can change the way you see things.
Episode length: Around 5 minutes
Where does this theory come from? Solution-focussed therapy; cognitive behavioural therapy, dialectical behaviour therapy
Sometimes in life awful things happen – big things, small things – and sometimes we get stuck in a cycle of painful emotions like shame, anger, bitterness, guilt or intense sadness. If you find yourself caught up in “why me” or “life isn’t fair” because you can’t solve the problem or change how you feel about it, this episode may be helpful. Acceptance of the things you can’t change does not mean you approve of them or like them – it means that you stop prolonging your suffering.
In this episode Aylssa talks about the DBT Skill of Radical Acceptance. Dialectical Behaviour Therapy was devised by Marsha M. Lineham, and this episode was devised referencing the book: “DBT Skills Manual for Adolescents” by Jill H. Rathus & Alec L. Miller (2015) Guildford Press.
In this episode Aylssa talks you through the deceptively simple MIBT exercise of Mind Mapping. This is a great exercise to check in on where you are at in life, what you are coping with at the moment and things you would like to change. So as always, grab yourself a pen and paper and lets get started!
This exercise is something you can do if you are attending counselling or therapy for the first time (take it with you!) or if you are feeling emotionally overwhelmed (it can be helpful to understand exactly what you are dealing with at the moment) or if you want to just check in with your life and mental health.
The exercise is from Motivational Interviewing (MIBT) which really focuses on identifying problem areas of your life/behaviours and prioritising the changes you want to make.